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Guidelines for Good Listening

Once again Carrie has pointed me in the direction of a FANTASTIC link that I had to share with you!

Guidelines to good listening from PsychCentral holds some REALLY great tips on how to be a good listener. Even if you already consider yourself a good listener, it has three really good tips on how to improve your already mastered skills!

Check it out, and while you’re at it, be sure to check out ED Bites and say hi to Carrie for me!

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Preventing Premature Births – March of Dimes

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She doesn’t know it yet* I will be joining Mrs. Flinger on May 3rd to walk for Maddie Spohr and for March of Dimes. I have set up my own donation page on the Seattle for Maddie team for a couple of reasons.

  1. I couldn’t find a Portland team to walk with. I know there’s a walk in Portland (on the 26th, my work is walking) but I want to walk with a team for Maddie, not my bank’s team. I’m being selfish about it. I’ll walk in both if I can find a team though. I know there’s a Salem team. I could drive there, too.
  2. I can meet Mrs. Flinger. She can then tell VDog that she got to meet me first. That will make me laugh, ‘specially since I met Mrs. Flinger because of VDog. Yeah, hehehe. (It’s 2:45am, I’m easily entertained.)
  3. I’m allowing myself to feel some true emotions and some super-connectedness with my friends. Some of these women I’ve never met in person, but the connection is still there. Friendship goes past letters on a screen; clearly. We have bonded over tragedy and many have bent themselves backwards to support Heather and Mike. These women have helped make Maddie’s story news with the LA Times.

I work at a bank and know we’re in a recesssion, and so I purposefully set my goal low so my friends, my family, my coworkers and my blog readers don’t feel the pressure, but every single dollar counts. I also set the goal low so that when my generous friends and family contribute and blow my goal out of the water, I am even more amazed at the power of the internet.

You may (or may not) have received an email from me asking for a donation, and if you didn’t but want to donate to the memory of Madeline Alice Spohr, please pass me a buck.


*She doesn’t know it because it’s 3am on Easter Sunday and she should be sleeping. Yes, it’s 3am and I’m awake … I can’t seem to shut off my brain tonight but it got me going to Seattle, so heck, 3am is fine with me.

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Win “My Husband’s Sweethearts”

Okay, well you can’t win my husband’s sweethearts because I’m missing that whole husband thing, but I can send you over to Cherie Burbach’s post at BlissTree (which formerly housed most of the B5Media health-centered blogs) to win the book My Husband’s Sweethearts by Bridget Asher!

Faced with the imminent death of her charming, cheating and estranged husband Artie, Lucy Shoreman decides to call the names in his little black book and invite the ladies to his Philadelphia home to say a final farewell. For her part, 30-ish Lucy, who’s 18 years Artie’s junior, can’t decide whether she loves or hates the man, while her much-married mother insists he deserves forgiveness. As a broad spectrum of his ex-lovers arrives, including a surprised mother-and-daughter duo and a troubled young woman Lucy takes under her wing, Artie’s previously undisclosed and estranged grown son, John, shows up and seems as wickedly appealing as Dad. Asher, a pen name of prolific author Julianna Baggott, takes the edge off her sharply drawn characters with a succession of familiar sentiments. But flashes of wit and a parade of memorable women keep pages turning as Lucy grows increasingly and endearingly confused about her feelings toward Artie, John and the rest.” ~ Amazon review

Even if you don’t want the book, I recommend you head over to the BlissTree blogs and see what they have to offer – lots of good stuff over there!

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Happy Birthday Mom!

Mom in her first appearance, wearing her fatsu...
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Today is a very important day!

It’s my Mama‘s birthday! Without her, I wouldn’t be the woman I am today. I’m so very thankful to have a mom who is also my friend!

Happy Birthday, Mom! I hope you have the most fantastic day! I have presents for you and will deliver them soon!

On another note for my readers:
If you could get anything in the world for your birthday, what would it be?

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Things I’m thankful for, I

Halsey, Oregon

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As I mentioned yesterday, this week I’ll be sharing a list of things that I’m thankful for. I hope that you plan on participating with me!

  1. GOD – He sent his one and only Son that whoever believes in Him should not perish but have eternal life (John 3:16). Jesus died to breach the rift between me and GOD. Without the love of Christ I would be nothing. Above everything else I am thankful for the sacrifice that He made for me. He made it for you, too.
  2. My family – as I mentioned here, they love me no matter my kooky habits. My parents raised me to be a strong, independent and smart woman. I work every day to make them proud of who I am. My sister makes me laugh. She and I have had a rocky relationship, but we are growing to really know one another as adults and it’s a blessing.
  3. My friends – everyone says this, but I have the most amazing friends. My Christian friends love in Truth, and my non-Christian friends love me even though I talk about Jesus all the time. When I have a problem, I call friends. When I need a hug, I call friends. When I need to do some laundry, I call friends. And they still love me unconditionally.
  4. Coffee – it wakes me up, it comforts me, it calms me down (weird, yeah, I know), it makes my house smell good and it connects me to people.
  5. Sunshine – Oregon doesn’t see sunshine enough, and so when I see it, I know to be truly thankful for it. Today it was cold, but for a brief moment, the sun was out. In winter months, it is such a blessing to see the bright orb in the sky.
  6. Living in the US – while I may not have been a happy camper politically for the past eight years, I am thankful to live in a country where I can speak my mind, share it on the internet, and not be in trouble for the books I read.
  7. Straight teeth – my parents paid for me to have braces and I am so thankful for this. Teeth make a person … I kid you not. I stare at teeth and know that they are included in a first impression. Mom used to tell me “smile and show me my new car,” and thinking back it really means a lot that my Mom would have rather me have beautiful teeth than her have a beautiful car. Thanks Mom!

What are you thankful for?

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mental health week
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Hi! You’ve reached Women’s Health, but currently I’m away from my desk

Right now I am:

  • working 40 hours a week at one job,
  • being trained for new duties at that job,
  • working 10 hours a week at another job,
  • handling a huge and somewhat mentally overwhelming project at that job,
  • trying to write enough to keep me sane,
  • going to church four or five days a week,
  • attempting to have a life outside of that stuff,
  • mentally preparing myself for a family reunion/my grams’ memorial service this weekend and
  • breathing deeply.

I may be missing in action for a couple of days while I try to screw my head back onto my neck (it ran away about 37 minutes ago. While I am gone, I suggest you check out the following sites which I adore:

I will return as soon as I can find that head (SHOOT! Did someone leave the front door open?) and I will be back to spamming your reader with women’s health news!

Until then, tell me what you do to keep your stress level down!


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Things I’ve learned

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$ signI mentioned in a previous entry that I was working at paying off credit card debt; and I got a very happy surprise in the mail on Friday night. Credit card #2 will be paid off with a $16 payment in September. The debt on this card was (from what I can remember) the highest of the four I’m paying off, and seeing that it only has $16 left to pay on it, I am so encouraged. That piece of mail got me thinking about the things I’ve learned from being financially responsible, and the overall theme has been you don’t have to have it all.

1. You can live without cable. There are at least a half-dozen sites on the internet where you can watch television (this does mean, though, that you have to have high-speed internet).

2. You can live without haircuts every six weeks. I haven’t had my hair cut since February. It doesn’t look as great as it could, but that’s okay. I’ve gotten used to having to work to make it look fantastic, but I have saved so much money by just letting it grow out. I could be trimming it myself, but I don’t trust me and scissors on my own hair, so I’ll just wait.

3. You can live without brand new (or brand name) clothes. I have learned the joy of shopping at Goodwill and the excitement of finding two new pair of Gap pants for less than $20.You can find some really good deals if you’re willing to work a bit for them.

4. You can live without so much of a social life. I work 40 hours a week at the bank and then 12 hours a week on other jobs as well as writing this blog and my personal blog, too. I don’t always have time to spend with my friends, and while they get frustrated with that sometimes, they know why I’m doing it. (Church has been my social life, and that works a-okay for me!) My friends have also been amazing in understanding that I can go out to dinner with them if they help me out, and they’re fantastic about that.

5. You can live without what you want and just get by on what you need. Right now, there is a huge list of “want” in my life, and a very short list of “need” and I’m still surviving. My bills are being paid and I’m a happy woman. Think about this a bit … do you really *need* that next purchase or is it on the want list?

6. You can live without being absolutely independent. You can ask for help. I’ve asked my friends, I’ve asked my family, I’ve even reached out to pastors at church and asked for help. Asking for help doesn’t make you weak, it makes you strong. You know you can’t handle something on your own and so you turn to someone else.

What can you live without?

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Friday 5 – 8/22/08

happy harvest pot pie
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So, how did last week go?

I didn’t manage to go for a walk since I was on crutches, but I did manage to get the rest of my goals taken care of. Did you join in? Did you write your hand-written note? I did, a thank you note to a friend. Did you hide your $1? I did. I’ll find it later, I’m sure. My TV is off as I’m writing this – I normally have the TV on for background noise while I blog! I drank more than my 8 glasses of water each and every day this week, too. I’m darned proud of myself!

This week I issue the following challenges to you!

1. Cook all of your meals. Don’t eat out, don’t go through the drive-thru, and even if you have to, cook some pot pies or box mac n’cheese. By cooking your own meals you’ll save some money as well as probably eat healthier!

2. Spend a half an hour with someone close to you. Laugh with them, cry with them, just sit around and read magazines together. Company is good for our souls, and if you haven’t been seeing your friends or family regularly, you’re missing out!

3. Do these three stretches every day – your neck deserves it!

4. Leave a comment on a blog where you’re normally intimidated to do so. I am normally intimidated to talk to some bloggers, but I am making it a goal to comment on at least ONE blog this week I’m normally shy on. You should, too!

5. Hug your child, your spouse, your best friend, your boss even, for at least 10 seconds. Let them know that you appreciate them and that they are loved. (Well, okay, maybe not your boss … but you get the point.) You’ll feel better, your hugee will feel better and physical contact is good for you!

Let me know how it goes, okay!

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