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How I know that I know what I’m talking about, ed II

Posted by Sarah R

August 26, 2008 |

Peanut butter in a jar.
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Game Over

Relationship Tip: Don’t change yourself for anyone but yourself.

Slowly, over almost a decade, I changed to make someone else happy. I changed my weight, I changed my exercise habits, I changed my religion, I changed my interests, I changed my taste in music, I changed my hair color, and I even tried to change my family, all to make him happy. Not only did I make myself incredibly unhappy, but he knew I was unhappy.

When he left that very unhappy woman, she didn’t realize why she was so unhappy for a few months. Then she woke up one day and realized that she didn’t have to buy crunchy peanut butter if she didn’t want to. She didn’t have to run every. single. day. She didn’t have to eat real meals, if she wanted popcorn or cereal for dinner, no one cared. This woman realized that going to bed on a Friday night at 8pm was a personal decision and if it made her feel good, she was going to do it.

The woman I am now does most things for herself. She sleeps in on days when she doesn’t feel like getting out of bed. She stays up too late sometimes. She drinks coffee the way that she likes it (which changes from day-to-day). She still dyes her hair (she’s cute as a blonde and as a brunette) and she still tries to run every day, but that’s her own choice. Every day she’s learning who she is and who she is to become, and she’ll never change for anyone but herself.

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